| Thursday, April 06, 2006 |
| ME time... |
 I'm a firm believer in the fact that when you are in a relationship you still need time apart from your significant other--time to grow, time to nurture, time to cater to your likes and hobbies, time to rejuvenate your batteries and get reconnect with yourself.
There's a great prevalence that when you meet someone that you totally click with you want to spend every single waking moment with the person, talking to them, hanging out with them or just being in the same space they are. As difficult as it may be, I heartily recommend you to dissociate yourself from being conjoined twins and seek your personal growth. If you are constantly with the same person 24/7 eventually, they will start to bug, annoy and irritate you. The things that start bugging you are little things that in the bigger picture don't really matter and will cause tiny rifts in the relationship.
If you feel like you are being stifled and controlled by a overly demanding or overly protective significant other, then ladies, I strongly urge you to seize your ME time. You have to be the one to schedule it, plan it and adhere to it, no one is going to do it for you. He might balk at the idea that you are having fun without him, or just plain away from him--but eventually he will get used to it and begin to enjoy his Me time as well.
Personal time and space is essential to the growth of every relationship. |
posted by MsApples @ 2:47:00 PM  |
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Maintaining your own interests/commitments is SO important - after all, that's the stuff that got the guy interested/attracted to you in the first place!
Displacing your personal priorities for a guy also puts a burden on him to always 'factor you in'. It detracts from HIS personal interests, and wasn't that what attracted YOU in the first place, too?
In short, conjoining is the ultimate Catch-22 - you WANT to spend all kinds of time together, but you also NEED to maintain your own individuality - both to remain the interesting individuals each of you fell for in the first place, but ALSO to stay rooted to what's YOURS, lest your identity be transplanted by the "WE" and should that flounder....
The bright side to all of this is: when you're actively engaged in other activites/interests, your guy knows he can't take your presence/attentions for granted, and will be more appreciative of them when he gets them.
And, appreciation is a WOOOOOOOONDERFUL thing! *cheshire cat grin*
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Maintaining your own interests/commitments is SO important - after all, that's the stuff that got the guy interested/attracted to you in the first place!
Displacing your personal priorities for a guy also puts a burden on him to always 'factor you in'. It detracts from HIS personal interests, and wasn't that what attracted YOU in the first place, too?
In short, conjoining is the ultimate Catch-22 - you WANT to spend all kinds of time together, but you also NEED to maintain your own individuality - both to remain the interesting individuals each of you fell for in the first place, but ALSO to stay rooted to what's YOURS, lest your identity be transplanted by the "WE" and should that flounder....
The bright side to all of this is: when you're actively engaged in other activites/interests, your guy knows he can't take your presence/attentions for granted, and will be more appreciative of them when he gets them.
And, appreciation is a WOOOOOOOONDERFUL thing! *cheshire cat grin*